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Choices and Outcomes: Creating a Positive Self Image


The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image. ~Brain Trace


Building a positive self image is important to your personal growth. We will never out perform our self image.

Both Scott and I have done extensive self development work. Our path to creating a positive self image is an ongoing process. The following steps are designed to be a starting point to your journey. These are not the end all or be all of building self confidence and having a strong self image. They will get you started though.

Find a Coach/Mentor

It is hard to see your own deficiencies. Finding an objective coach/mentor is essential to your success. This can be someone you pay to help you, or a peer that is looking to go through a similar journey with you. Either way, find a partner and meet regularly to access your progress

Start with Reflection

Before you meet or discuss you situation with your coach or mentor, access your personal situation first. Take a piece of paper and create two columns. Under one column write “What Works” and on the other column write “What Doesn’t Work.” This will give you a jump off point to start a conversation, and build a plan of action.

Make small changes

Making multiple large changes in your life is unrealistic. Especially if you are planning to make these changes long term. Pick one item from the “what doesn’t work” section, to get started.

Do not focus on circumstances outside of you. Only focus on changes that you can make. ie. What can you change about yourself to make personal relationships better. Yes it will be weird, and people will ask “what is happening,” but do it anyway.

Build a compelling purpose

We spoke in the last 2 episodes about finding your purpose. The reason this is important in self image, is your purpose ends up being who you are. When people talk about you, the idea is to create behavior’s consistent with your purpose/goals.

If you want to change the world, but you are terrified of change you are acting in a manner inconsistent with your goals.

Be Uncomfortable

Growth only happens when you step outside of your comfort zone. Creating new beliefs and behaviors is hard work. Definitely not for wimps. The more you lean into your discomfort, the more comfortable you will be with uncomfortable situations. Be strong it is never as bad as your ego makes it out to be.

End with Reflection

Always, Always, Always end with reflection. Measure your experiences against your purpose, and your ideal perception of what your Confident Self looks like.

Once you know where the gaps are, you can now make adjustments in future experiences. Always take advantage of recording speeches or presentations so you can review them on your own.

Being who you want to be is difficult, and takes consistent action toward your goals. But it is worth it….You Can Do It!!!!


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